With all the social avenues available today, something very interesting is occurring in how people interact with one another. I am recognizing more comments such as "I like them as a person, just not who they are at work" or "She is nice when she is not around him, but when he is around....". It is as though it has become acceptible to lower or raise our standards of ourselves based on who we are surrounding ourselves with. How is this ever congruent with the individual morals and values we have established? And as a society, how have we become accustom to and allow such waivering from friends, family, and coworkers to occur; these discrepancies in behavior from one situation to the next?
I understand social decencies may require small adjustments for an individual (such as formal and informal language in the French culture depending on who you are talking to for instance). But as a whole, I truly believe you should be able to look at an individual in all situations and see a thread of similarity. You should be able to trust what you think about a person inside and outside the workplace, social event, etc. A person who demonstrates thought and concern for you in one relational aspect of your life should show that same thought and concern in any given situation with you.
The tid bit for today- Hold yourself and those around you accountable to individual values and the relationships that are established. It is important to be able to trust that the people you consider close to you are genuine regardless of the situation, environment, or social queue.
I really would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. How do you relate to people? Does how you relate differ given the situation? If so, why?
Your Women's Lifestyle Coach & Owner of Little Bits Lifestyle Products