With many of us having less and less time to devote to our social lives, it becomes even more important to evaluate the relationships we have with others. Many can relate to the desire to please others, to be available when someone needs us, and to make as many connections as possible to those in the community. However, with little time and a limited reserve of energy, it is important to make our relationships count. They should be meaningful and prove to be a positive source of energy rather than a negative one. So what do you look for in your relationships? Here are a few questions to ask yourself when it comes to the people in your life.
How do I feel after I connect with this person?
If you find yourself drained after getting together with a friend, ask yourself why. Negative talk, gossip, or constant high-stress discussion does nothing to build a meaningful relationship. Look for those who provide light to your life rather than tear you down. Although a friend may need your assistance or a "vent session" every now-and-again, most of the moments shared with one another should be positive; leaving you feeling refreshed and energized.
Are they willing to make a meaningful connection?
Many people today leave little time in their lives for meaningful relationships. They are too busy running errands, growing their business, social networking, or discussing topics that do not add to their lives. Your relationships should be meaningful. The people you spend your time with should think of you when you are not together. They should want to know more about who you are, what you like, and what your values are. And most importantly, they should want to build a relationship that has meaning to not only themselves, but for you as well.
How much energy do I have to give to the relationship?
If you are spreading yourself to thin- saying "yes" to every and all social, business, and family events and leaving no time for "you time"; you are not doing anyone any favors. It is important to set aside time for yourself daily in order to restore your energy, find your center, and to be present in your relationships. Without committing to a healthy relationship with yourself, you will never be able to be a positive source of energy for another relationship.
Relationships are important. They can suck the energy from you or they can build you up. Choose those people in your life who bring you light, then give them the time with you that they deserve.
Here is to being a meaningful friend!
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