Decisions. All of us, at one point in our lives, have to make them; and no matter how big or small the decision, it will impact our lives and the lives of those around us. Lately, I have been taking note of what decision making looks like for many of my friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. In this process, I have discovered something fairly interesting; the busier life gets, the less time we have for thoughtful decisions, and the more we ask others to make them for us. Perhaps it is the fear of making the wrong choice, perhaps it is the lack of time to thoughtfully select which decision matches our authentic self best, or even more problematic- maybe we just ignore the reality that a decision does actually have to be made. Whatever the reason, people today are struggling to make sound decisions; if they are even able to make any decision at all.
Today, I want you to think about what not making a decision means for those around you; the reality is, you are making a decision to not decide and thus creating unnecessary pressure for those that then, must make a better decision for you. Take, for example, something as small as choosing where to eat. Your response may be as simple as, “Wherever you would like to go,” to the question, “Where would you like to eat?”. The person on the other side of the question specifically asked you where you would like to eat. Meaning, where would YOU like to EAT? Although you may feel as though you are being courteous and thoughtful in asking the person where they would like to go, you are actually avoiding making a decision and putting the decision back on your friend, coworker, etc. If they had a preference, they should tell you this upfront; as they asked you, they are expecting a response in your selection of food options.
The issue then arises, if you struggle in making the small decisions, how much brainpower do you have left to make the bigger decisions of your life? Can your spouse, friend, or coworker rely on you for support and your ability to make decisions where it counts?
Although this outlook on decisions may seem a bit harsh, the intention is more to get you thinking about what it means to make a decision. It is not being unthoughtful when you express your desires or needs; but rather it is the opposite. You are letting the person on the other end of the conversation know that you respect their question, their company, and their thoughtfulness in asking you what you would like in the first place.
So the next time you are asked or need to make a decision; consider it thoughtfully, ask those around you for input if needed, but then make your decision knowing it was your decision to make and you chose the best option you could! And for those smaller decisions, just make them and move on! The people around you will be happier if you do!
Your Women's Lifestyle Coach & Owner of Little Bits Lifestyle Products