We all know the term "people pleaser" and, in fact, I bet you can name a handful of people you know who would fall into this category. Perhaps, you even consider yourself to be a people pleaser of sorts. I know I have definitely come across people in the last few weeks who would confidently say they have trouble saying "no" to people. But where is the line drawn? Is being a people pleaser really such a bad thing? What about the other end of the spectrum- selfishness- certainly that side of the coin cannot be any better? I wanted to take a quick minute and let all you beautiful people know, there is most certainly a balance!
As individuals we have a moral responsibility to one another. We are to care for one another, help each other out in times of need, to support those that are striving towards goals, and to simply be there when a friend needs us the most. We have, in fact, lost sight of these moral "obligations", although they should be things we WANT to do simply because we care (another tangent for another time). The point is.... to be selfish in a world that promotes such an individualistic point of view comes easy for most. Thinking of me, myself, and I has been imbedded in our heads as natural, but folks, it most certainly is not the right way to live. We should recognize we are all put on this earth together, we are neighbors, family, and all are part of a much bigger picture; thus, we have a moral and Christian obligation to be there for one another. I will go as far as to say, we need to think of one another even when the other has not asked us to think of them. Simple trick for those selfish ones out there- every time you think of yourself, immediately think of someone else; overtime you will begin to see the importance of others versus your selfish desires.
Now the other side of this coin, you cannot take care of others in the way they deserve if you never take care of yourself. If you are always saying "yes", committing to projects, helping out others when they are in a jam, or extending your boundaries to make life easier for others; you are not giving your body, mind, or spirit the restoration and mindfulness that they need. Did you know your brain literally needs time to heal at night in order to focus, function, and retain information properly? So how can you truly focus on the person in front of you, if you do not allow downtime and rejuvenation for yourself? How do you know what you can do for the world if you never take the time to create your own dreams and discover your own passions? My tip for the "people pleasers" out there- write down 5 things you are going to do for yourself this week, when you are going to do them, and why they are important to YOU. Once you have picked what they are, stick to them and work your schedule around those things rather than sacrificing your time.
To all the "people pleasers" and the "self absorbed"- let's find some common ground shall we? :)
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