For the sake of all that this blog post represents... I am going to try to keep this "little novel" short and sweet.
Margin of white- What is it? Do I want it? Why is this important?
Margin of White
The space in your calendar where you have scheduled flexible, undefined time. Yes, I realize this may sound contradictory, but it isn't I PROMISE! It can be a couple hours a few times a week, and entire day, or a set hour at the start/end of the day; whatever fills your cup! The point is... keep that space white... mark off the time and leave that sweet precious gem clutter-free.
I Hope You Want It
Most people roughly fall into two categories- the "planner" and the "go-with-the-flow-er". The planner schedules her days, follows them to a "T", and wakes up to do it again the next day. She is scheduled, precise, and determined. The go-with-the-flow-er lets the day carry her where it may, enjoys the journey of the day, sees how much she can fit in as it comes, and rarely commits to anything ahead of time. She is fluid, flexible, and fun. However, when balance is not found, people often cannot grow to their fullest potential. The planner may find herself controlled by her commitments, tired, and too serious. She is not able to stop and smell the roses, because then, she will surely be late. The go-with-the-flow-er may find she is at the mercy of everyone else and their needs, late for the commitments she does make because she tried to squeeze one more thing in last minute, and going somewhere in life, but with no set direction.
The Importance of the Margin of White
When you create the margin of white in your calendar, you are striking a balance with yourself. Whether you tend to be scheduled and you are opening a space for a bit of freedom, or you have no structure and you are scheduling in growth, the margin of white allows you to find balance and carve out a time for true personal growth and whatever that looks like for you. You are allowing yourself a moment to embrace whatever is going to make you feel the best, to reconnect, and dive into something meaningful knowing you have the time and the space to do so.
My charge to you this week....
Carve out your margin of white, and then let me know what you did with it! Happy Monday lovely lady!
Wake up groggy, stare at the countless texts, emails, and comments I "have" to respond to... but don't... get ready for my job that begins at 6am in less than 30 minutes, hustle out the door only to show up to a workplace which is unprepared for the day ahead, think about all of the unanswered forms of communication and the projects that pull at my mind while working, get bombarded by "small talk" texts from people I just connected with in person, respond to all the people I can over a 30-minute lunch break that is usually interrupted, leave work, dive into my purpose-driven work with an immense amount of brain fog and mental exhaustion, hubby and I make dinner (may be the first time we are eating), contemplate the invites to events that I don't have time for, stress about the time crunch in the day ahead, say "no" to all of the important relationships with friends, go to bed still thinking, and begin again...
Does this sound familiar? Can you relate? When, and if, you find yourself in this position, it is time to make a dramatic shift in your schedule, prioritize your time, and make room for the things that really, really matter to that sweet heart of yours!
Here are 3 things to consider when shifting your schedule:
Meaningful Work- What is it that makes your heart sing and fills you with a sense of purpose? Whatever it is, your days should be filled with it. Remove the clutter so you can begin actually using your talents and give to the world the special gift you have to offer it!
My Life- I left my part-time job in order to open up a full week's schedule for my purpose-driven work as a lifestyle consultant, content writer, and home decor creator. It was scary, but so necessary!
Meaningful Relationships- Reality. You can only have a handful of really solid relationships. When looking at your relationships, consider who you can trust, who brings you joy, who understands you completely, and who truly fosters your growth. Think of your spouse, family, and dearest friends. Also think about people you would like to form stronger relationships with. Then, (and get ready for the harsh reality), say "no" to the individuals who don't have the best intentions or do not align with what is important to you in your relationships.
My life- I only say "yes' to those relationships that really allow me to be me, those people who love me unconditionally, and foster my growth as a person. I carve out pockets of time for those relationships, as well as relationships I want to foster. It may seem harsh, but the older we get, the more important those valuable relationships, and carving out the time for them, becomes.
Meaningful Experience- Look at how you spend your time in the morning, evenings, and weekends. Fill those moments with a balance of routine and spontaneity, but only do the activities that fuel your soul and restore you.
My life- I now start my mornings slowly and end my days the same. These are times where there are no electronics, I spend quality time with my husband, and the "work-brain" is turned off. As an introvert, this is sooo important, because I need this time in order to show up fully for the day.
Once you know what you find to be meaningful, shift your schedule so these things are at the forefront of your life. Not-so-fun-stuff will come up, but always consider whether you actually have to react and take on that "stuff" or not... usually we just think we have to.
Shifting your schedule isn't always easy, but it is truly necessary! (Seriously, it is.) If you need a shift in your schedule, but need a little more guidance and direction to do so, you know where to find me lovely lady!
Here is to creating a life that truly reflects YOU!